Polyamorous, non-monogamous, solo poly, bisexual, gay, lesbian, straight
These are terms, meant to be descriptive and are often used to help someone “get” the lifestyle one is portraying.
I do not feel any of these FIT me. I am me, you can label me how you like, however I will still be me, my way, not what any labels definition happens to be.
That said, I’ve a best friend who feels more comfortable having things defined in her own life, her world. So she had difficult understanding the nature of my relationship with her partner, whom I’ve been with a good deal longer then she has. She’s relaxed that now. She sees how he and I are fine without easily identifiable definitions being applied to us.
Why do you need to have how you feel in your life, your relationships defined? Are definitions for you, or for others in your life?